Wednesday, December 30, 2009

Patience--a New Year's Resolution!

“It is more important to know what kind of patient has the disease than what kind of disease the patient has.” Sir William Osler

This is completely true in my experience as well. I am never concerned about the physical condition you are in as far as my ability to help you reverse this and heal your body; this is not limiting, except in the most imminent, life-threatening cases. The limitations in healing your bowel and body are almost entirely due to your emotional state of mind.

Healing requires patience, faith, forgiveness, hard work, support, and gratitude. Finding the purpose in your current situation is also very helpful.

I often see clients who have spent a lot of time, money and energy trying to figure out how to heal their physical body. Personally, it took me thousands of dollars and thousands of hours to accomplish this. My book is the result of this experience. It contains all of the information that you will ever need to completely and permanently heal your bowel and body and eliminate health, weight, and other problems. Therefore, if you have extra time and money on your hand, instead of reading more books on health, I encourage you to devote it to your emotional health. This can take the form of therapy, reading books on this topic, joining support groups, and/or connecting to a religious organization that supports you. The following information is just a small sample of ideas and advice to you to help you succeed in this process.

Patience

The hardest part of this program for many of you will be having the patience to heal, but you will need this to be successful. With this information, you can live a very long time; you will have the time to attain your health and weight goals. Unlike the “treat the symptoms with crutches” approaches, with this program, daily you are making progress to a healthier, thinner, longer living you.

One step at a time

If your body is particularly unhealthy, and/or you have a lot of weight to lose, take it one step at a time. Focus on your month-to-month progress, not the end result. I had to do this when writing my book. When I thought about all that I had to do, I easily became overwhelmed and paralyzed, and I avoided writing. When I took it one section at a time, and made small, attainable goals, before I knew it, I had written 700 pages.

Don’t analyze on a daily basis

I am very much against the idea of weighing yourself every day, or focusing on your health and weight on a daily basis, either. This creates stress and unrealistic expectations. It also directly leads to a greater tendency to engage in harmful, quick fix approaches.

Rather than dwelling on your goals, absorb yourself in the process of healing and eating more healthfully. The important thing is the here and now. Every day, imagine yourself becoming healthier and stronger; imagine your body eliminating old, acidic/toxic, and unhealthy cells and replacing them with stronger, healthier ones. Eventually, all of this will get you to your goals, but you will possibly miss these goals if anxiety over the process sets in. It may seem like a large feat to replace billions of cells with healthier ones, and therefore imagining the end-result of this process may become too overwhelming and distract you from success in achieving it. Keep the focus on today, and this process becomes much more possible, and much less intimidating.

Don't strive for perfection

Put your ego aside and focus instead on just becoming healthy. To become healthy, you do not have to eat or live perfectly. The process should be as enjoyable and stress-free as possible. My experience has been that clients who try to follow this program perfectly all the time often take longer to get to their destination than those who let go and have faith in the journey. Perfection- seeking is a form of control, and trying to have complete control over this, or any other aspect of your life, is impossible. Relax, and know that you will attain your goals and reach your destination, health and weight-wise, in due time.

Quick fixes create really big long-term problems. Do you really think it’s worth it?!

It is extremely hard to resist the temptation of a quick fix. Thousands of health and weight loss books have been sold because they promise this, and millions of you have fallen for it over and over again.

Ironically, the more often you go down the quick fix road, the longer you will struggle with your health and weight. You may lose ten pounds in one month, only to find that two years later you are ten pounds heavier than you were when you started the quick fix diet (as well as hundreds or thousands of dollars poorer.) If you then follow another quick fix program, in another two years you will be no better off, even if you “immediately” see an improvement again. So, four years later, you are still unhealthy and overweight.

If you decide, “enough is enough” and heal your bowel and body, you may not see an immediate improvement. But in four years, you will look and feel better than you ever have, and you will be able to maintain this effortlessly for the rest of your very long life (unless, of course, you get hit by a bus, for example, although if you are healthy, your chance of surviving that bus accident is much higher than if you are not!)

A client came to me many years ago and after only three months, she got frustrated and gave up. She was only willing to devote three months to healing her fifty-year-old body, or 600 months worth of an unhealthy bowel and the accumulation of acids. She ran off to a quick-fix alternative doctor in town who put her on a high protein diet. She lost some weight (temporarily!), but had also developed diabetes, a condition she did not have when I saw her. She called me at this point, wanting to work with me again, and conveying the same need for a quick fix. She had still not learned her lesson. I turned her down as a client, because I knew she wasn’t ready to get better, and that I wasn’t going to be able to help her. After all that she did, she still didn’t get it.

I do not judge all of you who have fallen for these “too good to be true” scenarios. I did too. The good news is that many of my most successful clients are the ones who have failed with these programs, who now get that there isn’t an easy miracle cure. They are committed to healing their body, and they have a high rate of success in achieving this. In fact, if someone comes to my office that has not failed at the quick fix programs, I am leery. The temptations are far too great and very prevalent. Everywhere you look, someone is promising you a miracle cure or weight loss program. It is like being on a strict diet and having people approach you every day with a smorgasbord of rich, decadent desserts. You may have the strength to turn them down for a while, but let’s face it; eventually, most of you will cave into the temptation and buy one.

As hard as it is, every time you see or hear of a quick fix, immediately move away from it. Get out of its space. Do not listen or read anymore about it. If it is on television, turn it off. Surround yourself with others who support, respect, and admire your efforts to heal your body, and the time it will take to do this.

And don’t worry, as hard as it is initially to watch others look and feel better much faster than you, give it some time, and you will find out that they have failed. When your friend gets rid of her headaches in two days on a high protein diet, and you haven’t, you will, sadly, find out that in the near future, her headaches are worse than ever, or she has developed a new, more serious problem in its place.

If you do not give this program at least one “it will fly by faster than you can imagine” little year to show you that it works, (nothing, compared to the decades that most of you have had unhealthy bowels and bodies!, and nothing compared to the decades you will spend with short term success but inevitable failure if you follow the crutch approaches), you will never succeed in attaining a symptom-free, addiction-free, disease-free body, free of weight struggles and obsessions. Of this I am certain.

In fact, I would not blame calories, stress, genetics, laziness, carbs, or even an unhealthy bowel and body as the number one cause of obesity and death in this country—I would definitely say it is due to impatience.

So this New Years, resolve to be more patient, and the coming year will likely be better than you could have ever imagined!